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Rebecca
Walker, who Time magazine named one of 50 future leaders
and is founder of The Third Wave -- a national non-profit
organization for young women -- gave a discussion about
the "movement towards militarism" Wednesday.
The
office of Student Involvement and Programs presented the
event titled, "Men and Women: Tell the Truth and Change
the Face of Feminism." However, the theme for the night
was "Stop the War (on men): Peace begins with you."
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Credit: Jared Makowski/Staff Photographer
Activist Rebecca Walker speaks about feminism Wednesday
in the Rutgers Student Center Multipurpose Room on the College
Avenue campus.
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"Men
are attacked before they are born," Walker said.
Society teaches them they need [to] be hard, strong, courageous,
tough and not afraid to kill or to die. They are "little
soldiers from a very young age," and by age 17 --
the age of enlistment -- there is a "complete freeze
on who [they are] holistically, [a] complete alienation from
self." This is why, she said, they are able to pick
up guns.
Walker
spoke about the influence of pornography on male sexuality.
She said men are taught to detach themselves from sex. In
ancient tradition, sex was a holy act -- an act of healing.
In order to "heal wounds that have taken root in
woman's womb," she said men must be more attentive
to a woman's sexuality, the "female energy."
Pornography, she said, continues to restrict rather than
expand that sensitivity.
She
went on to discuss pieces from a book she is currently working
on about this topic, based on her theories. To do research
for the book, she spoke to many men to "hear their
story." She said "every man has a story
of intense violence," whether it is being picked
on in school or being "brutalized" by their
own fathers for failing to conform to the male stereotype.
Women,
according to Walker, contribute to this warped version of
masculinity by not seeking sensitive men but expecting them
to behave with macho personas. If there is to be a change,
women need to "support the men who are doing it
differently," she said. Women must begin by "eroticising"
this "new masculinity" they say they want.
Lashawn
Garnes, a Livingston College senior, said although it felt
like somewhat of a "hippie event," she found some
valuable lessons. The main message for her was, "It's
OK to feel pain, happiness, joy or to feel nothing at all;
it's OK."
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