Rebecca Walker
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Wednesday, March 28, 2007

New York City

 
It was such an honor to appear on Good Morning America. The interview gave me a chance to reach a large audience to discuss some of the more relevant themes in the book, and to clarify my position regarding the more controversial aspects. It was also a lot of fun, and the hair and makeup team (thanks April and Kathleen!) taught me many new tricks. After the interview at ABC, I made my way down to Barnes & Noble in the heart of Chelsea. It was a wonderful crowd. My dad was there, and several dear friends, one of whom brought her beautiful little girl. There were many excellent questions from the audience and we discussed several important issues that the book raises. One was the mother-daughter relationship. Why is it that so many mother-daughter relationships are broken? I know very few women who have healthy relationships with their mothers.

I responded with what I've been thinking a lot about lately: this idea of sisterhood, and mothers and daughters being more like sisters or friends. Being "sisters" throws off the archetypal mother-daughter relationship. Daughters need mothers to be mothers: unconditionally loving, not competitive, etc. The role of a sister is more closely linked with friendship, which can sometimes turn into jealousy and rivalry. I think being more aware of these different models and paradigms may help mothers to form healthier relationships with their daughters. Finally, I am so appreciative of the people sharing their stories on this blog and elsewhere. We are engaging in an important dialogue. The participation, passion, and varied viewpoints are all important and add to the conversation.

Peace and Love, Rebecca.


 
 
 

8 Comments:

Blogger chris peters said...

It was lovely meeting you and hearing you read passages from your book! There were so many things I wanted to say, and altho I am rarely ever nervous, I felt like I stumbled all over my words when it was finally my turn to speak with you...probably because there was soooo much I wanted to say, and I hate to monopolize anyone when other people are waiting.... well, maybe someday, we can discuss these things...

I did buy your book, To Be Real, and so far, just reading Gloria Steinheim's foreword, has soothed some of my angers...I am a late-bloomed feminist and I am so angry about so many limitations in my life that I have no control over and it helps to know that I am not alone, and that many of these issues have been written about. Although, I am still frustrated that I may not see true change in my lifetime.

your GMA spot was great! I was so glad to not have missed it. I think it covered the current 'controversial' topic very well, mainly because it is clear or clear-er, that unconditional love can definitely be an issue for step-families and not adoptive families. which is one of the many things I wanted to say, since I embody all 3 issues; step, bio and adoptive mom.

I hope to see you again, and be able to speak with you... without stumbling. keep up the outreach!

chris peters
grama to Paris = BWJapanese
multytasker@optonline.net

3/28/2007  
Blogger chris peters said...

It was lovely meeting you and hearing you read passages from your book! There were so many things I wanted to say, and altho I am rarely ever nervous, I felt like I stumbled all over my words when it was finally my turn to speak with you...probably because there was soooo much I wanted to say, and I hate to monopolize anyone when other people are waiting.... well, maybe someday, we can discuss these things...

I did buy your book, To Be Real, and so far, just reading Gloria Steinheim's foreword, has soothed some of my angers...I am a late-bloomed feminist and I am so angry about so many limitations in my life that I have no control over and it helps to know that I am not alone, and that many of these issues have been written about. Although, I am still frustrated that I may not see true change in my lifetime.

your GMA spot was great! I was so glad to not have missed it. I think it covered the current 'controversial' topic very well, mainly because it is clear or clear-er, that unconditional love can definitely be an issue for step-families and not adoptive families. which is one of the many things I wanted to say, since I embody all 3 issues; step, bio and adoptive mom.

I hope to see you again, and be able to speak with you... without stumbling. keep up the outreach!

chris peters
grama to Paris - BWJapanese
multytasker@optonline.net

3/28/2007  
Blogger Blackgold said...

I am so thrilled that the blog is back. I am reading Baby Love now. It's going slow because, well, I have a baby to love full time as stay home mom.

I missed Good Morning America, but your discussion here about mothers and daughters...it's a whole lot to think about. I believe that I was blessed with a daughter because I've done so much inner work to understand what happened and didn't happen between my mother and myself. Despite the work, I am still anxious because I have a witnessed what NOT to do. I don't have experience or a model of what works or what's healthy.

While reading last night(I'm only like 2 chapters into it), I was soooo shocked by your honesty when revealing the question as to whether or not to continue the antidepressant during the pregnancy. My reaction was like 'Oh my God', she shared that...(I am in the mental health field (clinical social work) and it's still so taboo to admit that many of us suffer from depression and require medication or therapy to help us out. Your honesty is refreshing. Allowing others into your life space via your written and spoken words is liberating and healing.

I'm going to keep reading as time permits. Travel safely and enjoy the book tour.

patrice

3/29/2007  
Blogger Amy said...

Want to find humor in the struggle to raise your children?
Mother Load Show in NYC

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_CgIgHUd5sA

3/29/2007  
Blogger Danielle's Daily life said...

You look great.

3/29/2007  
Blogger Brandon said...

It saddens me that there is such a rift between you and your mother. Both of you seem like beautiful people--and your mother is one of my icons, one of the people I truly look up to and turn to for guidance(even though I don't know her). How can this be that you two don't get along?

4/10/2007  
Blogger Trish said...

:)

4/16/2007  
Blogger Eline said...

I really appreciate what you're doing and generally agree with your statements or the possible explanations you offer for certain patterns. But I don't think that regarding the mother-daughter issue you are right in all cases. I agree that it would probably be better for a child not to experience a sister-like relationship with their mother. But then on the other hand, I have never had any trouble getting along with my sister and it's just all love. But my mother and me has always been a bit of a problem. I personally think it has to do with that unconditional love. There are so many emotions involved and that easily conflicts. It's like laughing and crying, they are both so close either. I remember being very surprised seeing people laugh at a funeral when I was a little kid, but when I grew older I came to understand that at such a moment laughing and crying aren't that different. And I think it's the same in a mother-daughter relationship. You easily scream at each other but it only came forth out of love. And because this is such a powerful thing with such a wide range of emotions involved, you easily choose the wrong approach, lead by this stronge love.
Anyway, that is my idea on the topic. Thank you for all your inspiring words and thoughts, you really are a true inspiration! Eline

4/26/2007  

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