posted by Rebecca Walker at 6:14 PM
Rebecca, I enjoyed your interview on NPR. You were articulate and concise. I especially liked the part when you said that you will not set yourself up--you will not try to be the "mother of all mothers", and no matter how hard you try you will not be perfect. This is a universal truth, and although I am not yet a mother, it is an idea that I have to remind myself of in my relationships. -mdw
Hi Rebecca,I know all about mother/daughter pain. I am adding links to two sources that have helped me tremendously with it. Perhaps you will relate as they are Buddhist teachings.Peace on your journey.Michelle O'Neil http://www.taramandala.org/osc-max/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=47_32&products_id=126http://www.taramandala.org/osc-max/catalog/product_info.php?cPath=49_24&products_id=175
Hi Michelle--I am very familiar with the practice of Chod and Machik Lobdron. As a matter of fact, Machik's tangkha is directly to my right as I write this now. To the extent that living one's life authentically is the embodiment of Chod, anyone who knows the practice and the body of my work will come to recognize the dharma in me.
Rebecca,I was worried for you when I first saw the headline of this piece because I thought your voice would be manipulated through Chesler's ideals and expectations again. I love NPR and appreciated the full interview with you because the shorter Chesler piece still seemed a bit slanted. As always you were articulate and generous with your spirit. I'm glad you took the space to share your voice in such a generative dialogue on so many essential heart concerns that responds rather than reacts. "I refuse to be a part of your theatre. I'm going to create my own."I heard you this time. You sound peaceful and truly creating from a healthy place. Truly a "Doctor with all their faculties..." Thank you!It is clear sharing heals you but sometimes I worry that you are giving a way so much of your energy. Take care.
I think you sound great. You could be a dj on one of those "easy listening" stations.I also was kind of raised to believe that motherhood was "The worst thing that could happen to a woman". What I don't understand is, why so many women will preach that to you your whole life, and then when you talk about them preaching it to you- they act like they have no clue what you are talking about. They say they never said that or give some kind of "Not all feminist" argument and make you look like a fool. They've often had me thinking I was crazy. I'm not crazy, those are just really good mind games.
Hello Rebecca, I just listened to your interview on NPR. I was great! I love the attention that you're bringing to the subject of motherhood and the mother daughter relationship. Eventhough my relationship with my mother is now on solid ground, it hasn't always been so. While listening to the interview, I could feel the love that you still have for your mother, and I hope that one day you two will find your way back to each other.--take care
Dear Ms. Walker,Thank you for your wonderful work – work which moves us toward a better understanding of ourselves as women and as part of the human race. You express what I feel – that being a mother need not be the end of one's self. It is, on the contrary, a better, more loving expression of self. Though I have a sincere respect for your mother’s work, I have often felt that there was no place for me in literature, not even hers. Not fully black, white, or Native American (I am old and still prefer the word Indian), the mixed race child had no place in literature other than the stereotypical tragic mulatto, aimed at asserting nothing good could come of an interracial relationship. Your work does that for me, affirms me, and gives me a place. Your work gives me something more. It gives affirmation to the choices I made and I hear echoes of myself in your thoughts on motherhood. I applaud your courage in writing truth. I applaud your integrity in standing by what you believe in spite of the estrangement that I know must sometimes pain you. My daughter once also wrote something that I found painful. At first, I was hurt. I wondered why, out of all possible topics, she could not find a topic that didn’t expose my personal wounds. So at first, that is what I said. One hour later I found her and told her to write her heart out, to write her truth, and if the result was a little bloodletting, well, I have a high hemoglobin count. I am quite old enough to be your mother, but I am as grateful as a child to you for giving my truth voice. Sincerely,Noreen Jent
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