The Twelve-Step Mother: Five Questions for Cindy McCain
I do not buy the Cindy McCain story.
When I look at Cindy McCain, I see a battered wife, of sorts. And when I look at John McCain, I see an old-school kind of husband who thinks his wife and a lot of other "skirts" are idiots.
The kind who would pick Palin because he has so little respect for women, he thinks they'll vote for a woman who wants to send their sons and daughters to war, take away their reproductive freedom, ensure they are paid less than they deserve, and destroy the natural environment in which they live.
In light of the fact that Cindy McCain has been married for twenty years to a man she only sees on weekends, and because HER HUSBAND DIDN'T NOTICE that she was addicted to painkillers and taking ten Vicodin a day, I'm going to ask my questions with restraint.
Because wealth does not protect you from everything, and Cindy McCain, like the rest of us, is a human being. In recovery. From something.
If I ran into Cindy McCain at, say, the Yale Club in New York, I'd ask her a few questions.
1. I am worried about Bridget. You seem to use her as a prop in your stump speech; she's the dark, unwanted, orphan you and John made your own. Have you talked to her about what it's like to be black in your family? Do you have honest and forthright discussions about the issues of transracial adoption? Do you take as much responsibility for the challenges that come with being your adopted Bangladeshi daughter as you take credit for the boon?
2. Vanity Fair estimates that one of the ensembles you wore at the Republican National Convention cost over $300,000 or, the price of one and a half homes for most Americans. I love Prada too, but do you ever think, like most women who buy extremely expensive apparel, you are compensating for low self-esteem? Did you make sure that your $200,000 diamond earrings weren't made from blood diamonds? If he were President, would you encourage your husband to tax the top one percent of earners appropriately so the rest of us can buy our own earrings?
3. How are you feeling about Sarah Palin? If the GOP
4. I am truly disturbed by the situation with your half-sister. You inherited one hundred million dollars from your father and she inherited ten thousand? Are you going to give her some of your money? At least enough to have a nice home and put her kids through college? She's not a starving orphan in an impoverished third world country, but she is your sister. If you're unwilling to share your wealth with her, how can the rest of us believe you and your husband will advocate for us? Honestly, between Reagonomics and the Bush tax "reforms," it's possible she pays more taxes than you.
5. And finally, what do you think of divorce? Do you have friends who would support your getting one if you wanted? And did you know Arizona is one of only three states in America that offers a legally recognized "Covenant Marriage" that makes obtaining a divorce extremely difficult for both parties. Would you advise your daughter Meghan to exercise that option, or would you rather she benefit from relatively new divorce laws that allow her to exit a marriage if she desires?
And what if she were to become pregnant, like Sarah Palin's teenage daughter? I know you're officially against abortion, but would you want Meghan to have a baby at this point in her life, now that she's gone to Columbia and started her blog and is positioned for well, all kinds of important things? And what if she were pregnant as a result of rape? Would you welcome that baby into your home?
I've got these questions, but I'm open, too. Cindy, if you want to work together to make sure our children never have to die in an unnecessary, one hundred year war, call me.
Because I want grandchildren, just like you.